Swipe Right is our advice column that tackles the tricky world of online dating. This week: how to find a semi-regular hookup — and avoid scary messages. I am 37, a single mom and am looking to find someonebut not a boyfriend. After years of slowly losing my mojo and sexual confidence, I am slowly rediscovering my drives and desires and now want to find someone to explore that with. I am looking for a semi-regular hookup with someone I can get to know over time and explore my sexuality, but I am not ready to actually meet someone for the longer term. How on earth do I ask for this on an app like Tinder without getting scary messages? Good for you. This is a great start!